What comes first: thoughts or feelings and why is it important?
2024 December What comes first: thoughts or feelings and why is it important? Published 19 December 2016. Written by Chris Worfolk. The author of this month’s subject was testing a piece of software designed to help with social anxiety. One of the activities it has clients do is to list the order in which things happen. It asked about someone feeling embarrassed at a party and asked them to say which came first. : Your thought: “I made someone feel uncomfortable”. So, then you felt embarrassed. Your chest felt tight. And you left the party. […]
Top 10 Effective Communication Techniques for couples and married couples
Communication Between Couples, Good communication skills are the keys to any successful relationship because relationships are emotional and rely on interpersonal verbal and nonverbal exchanges between the two people involved. Most marriages start out with the idea of success not realizing the number one cause of divorce is bad communication. In cases of parenting and co-parenting, communication is even more important because the parents are raising children who will become adults. Kids learn their first communication techniques from their parents or guardians. There are three types of communications: verbal, nonverbal, and written. Below are the top 10 effective communication techniques […]
This article discusses how to support someone with depression. It focuses on strategies you can use to offer support and encourage your loved one to seek treatment for their condition. In the UK, 1 in 6 people report experiencing a common mental health problem (like anxiety and depression) in any given week in England1. At the end of January 2024, there were 1.90 million people in contact with mental health services, with 451,944 new referrals being received into services during that month3.Top of Form In the USA according to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), around 21 million adults in the […]
Why is the relationship between Counsellor and Client vital for successful therapy
2024 September Why is the relationship between Counsellor and Client vital for successful therapy? Mainly due to pressures of time I have here reproduced an article by Joshua Miles (Accredited Psychodynamic Psychotherapist) titled Why the therapeutic relationship matters? published on 29-06-2015 in the Counselling Directory. I cannot improve on it except to offer that the therapeutic relationship is essential because without it there is no recovery. Joshua Miles “The therapeutic relationship is the connection and relationship developed between the therapist and client over time. Without the therapeutic relationship, there can be no effective or meaningful therapy. This […]
3 MAIN SCHOOLS OF THERAPY I believe other therapists might be able to explain the 3 main branches of therapy better than I can but I’ll give it a go for the clients who might come across these blogs. Although there are broadly speaking three main schools within therapy, in practice most clients will have a choice of two: person-centred and CBT. The third choice, psychodynamic therapy, from the Freudian school, although once prominent is now far less common. It is worth noting that the differences between models can often be over-stated. They all have the same basic destination, even […]
Relationships heal In the July 2024 Blog, I will quote extensively from my favourite book ‘A General Theory of Love’ in which the subject of our front-line doctors is discussed. The authors discuss the innovations that brought an unparalleled ability to cure: x-rays, anti-biotics, vaccines, anaesthesia etc. etc. However, they note that the reasoning part of the brain has enjoyed ascendancy within medicine while at the same time the importance of the limbic/feeling part of the patients’ brain seems to have been largely forgotten. The authors’ proposition is that illness arouses the ancient attachment machinery of limbic need. The patient […]